KICKASS WITCH : Putting The "K" In Magick
Do you ever feel like there's a gigantic gap between the way you're living now and the life of your dreams? Do you sometimes wish you could wave a magick wand and all of your problems would just disappear so that you could finally step into the kickass life you know you were meant to lead? I can't promise you that transformation is as easy as waving a magick wand, but I do have quite a few tricks up my sleeve and am more than happy to share them with you here. So, chin up, Gorgeous, stick around and, most importantly... BELIEVE!

Saturday, October 5, 2013

This Is What Forty Looks Like : HAPPY BiRTHDAY to me!


"This is what forty looks like."

Gloria Steinem first said that in response to a reporter saying that she didn't look forty...

I love that. I think that with the media's emphasis on youth culture & desperate housewives, we sometimes forget what forty actually looks like!

Forty looks a lot like 39, and- in the end, it's really just a number, a moment in time, unless, of course, you want it to mean something more. And- I do!

Forty to me is a symbol of freedom. It represent a kind of spiritual independence that has moved beyond people-pleasing & self-depreciation into the realm of true, soul-stirring empowerment.

Forty to me is about saying "NO" when I mean no, and "YES" to the life I want to lead.

It's about being me... unapologetically, and, if you knew me in my 20s & early 30s, you'd say that's quite the upgrade.

Forty is a strangely entertaining place where Iggy Azalea and The Hallmark channel cross paths.

It's sky high heels for the occasional hot date & comfy flats the rest of the time.

It's an earlier bed time & better sex, reading for pleasure, and a loose rendition of the 80/20 rule in which I eat a sugar-free, grain-free, whole foods diet 80% of the time & a more indulgent, whole foods diet of creamy fermented oatmeal, decadent dark chocolate & tangy goat cheese 20% of the time...

I. LOVE. GOOD. FOOD.

It's also about throwing caution to the wind in order to kick off the Big Four Oh with a super bad, as in BAD, birthday rap... 



Last weekend, my mom, my sister & Darl, a beloved family friend, drove down from Bakersfield the day before my birthday to have a little Joanna-style fun in Pasadena.

We went to my favorite theater to see Enough Said (adorable), browsed my favorite indie book store next door, and then wined & dined ourselves at La Luna Negra, a Spanish tapas restaurant complete with spicy chocolate shrimp, live flamenco dancing & the world's best sangria.

My mom brought an old brass bell along for the ride, and every time she gave it a ring, I got to open another birthday present, 40 in all! It was all girlie stuff : nail polish, pretty journals, bath gel, lipstick, ponytail holders, scented candles...   







The actual day of my birthday, September 29, we had a big family party for both me & my son, Tanner. He was born the day after I turned 20, so, for the last two decades, we have celebrated together.

And yes- I wore my Late Bloomer's Crown! My Uncle Day Day did too. LOL. Silly runs in my family...












Billy had to come straight from work, so he was The Man In Black, and I wish I had a better pic of my dress & shoes. This photo does NOT do them justice. The dress is a Free People number with a pretty fuchsia lace overlay & burgundy handkerchief hem. The shoes are... well- they're just so dang witchy!



My mom had me when she was 20, and, as I mentioned, I had my son the day after I turned 20, so this year we are The 20-40-60 Brigade! -xo


"The family is one of nature's masterpieces." -George Santayana

14 comments:

  1. Happy Late Birthday! Looks like you had a fun time!

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    1. Whoop! Whoop! THANK YOU. An excellent time was had by all!

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  2. You do not look 40 woman! I would love to know what you do to avoid wrinkles lol Your shoes and dress are amazing. I love that you wrote this article because it gives me hope knowing that life doesn't stop at 30 or 40. I've been struggling with turning 30 but you, my dear, are aging with grace!

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    1. Gah!!! THANK YOU, Allorah!!! You look GORGEOUS at 30... nothing to struggle with- just go with the flow... I know you recently quit smoking & that is HUGE in terms of warding off wrinkles. So- you're already doing it, my friend :O)

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  3. Love. Love. Love. Love Free People - and your choice was divine. Looks amazzzzing on you. The crown is just so perfect. What a lovely idea for your mother to share with the bell and 40 gifts! Your sentiments on forty are just so dead on Jo. Just love this. Happy Fortieth soul sister. Let's make it rock!

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    1. Love. Love. Love. YOU!!! Happy Fortieth to us both, soul sister!!! \m/

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  4. Happy, Happy 40 to a woman who doesn't look a day over 25!! :-) I wanna see a birthday haul video...especially your new Gypsy Tarot Deck!

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    1. Ha! THANK YOU so much... I feel like if I mention my birthday one more time, people are going to start throwing tomatoes at their screens :OP

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  5. Happy belated Birthday! So glad you are enjoying being 40! I had my daughter 13 days after my 40th birthday & while I'm now in my 50s she says I'm the irresponsible, fun parent which is fine with me, she keeps me young & silly & filled with love for life (okay my husband -- her dad, the pragmatic parent -- also helps to do those things.) Freeing your spirit is well, freeing! Keep it up, it gets even better (as I'm sure you can see by your beautiful mother!) XXX Jet

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    1. Aw... Nice! Here's to free spirits! THANKS, Jet :O)

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  6. I'm so glad you had a beautiful birthday my friend! Many well wishes for you in your 40th year! I know it gets better and better and you do an amazing job of reminding that it's alllllll goooooooood. Bravo to you! ~Lindsey

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  7. Happy belated birthday, Joanna! Girl, you look AMAZING! Absolutely stunning in that gorgeous dress and heels, and the crown! Perfecto! Much love to you and your beautiful family :) Great blog btw, awesome pics too!

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